Smallness.

Smallness.

To an untrained eye or someone who only sees things for the way they look and/or sound, this won’t make sense.

We go through life and judge what we see and hear. We like the sound of it, the like the sight, we enjoy the moment.

We judge people and their decisions, we criticize their lifestyle, we joke about their struggles, so all humans go through life with strong senses… very strong senses.

What does that mean? When you see someone, when you look at their life-- their marriage, their family, their lifestyle, their belongings, their religion, their past, their position--- you need to be able to see the history, the battle, and the story behind it.

I find so often people are quick to say, “she acts funny” or “she’s not real”--- when they have no clue what her definition of real is and the pain, struggle, and past she has been through. Success always comes from somewhere… it doesn’t come from nothing.

Don’t base your perception on what you see or hear… both can be deceiving.

 

I call this smallness, people who can’t empathize or understand until they are backed into a corner and forced to do so.

Small thinkers are selfish, they see things through their eyes, no one else’s, and think that life will be fine as long as they do so.

They speak about Suzie down the street and her issues because they can’t stand the thought of their own problems at home, they undermine people who are good to them because they know they could never be the same to someone else, they destroy friendships and marriages because they know they will never posses relations of their own. They really can’t stand to look INSIDE so they turn their focus OUTSIDE.

IF you aren’t careful you will become this way, it isn’t hard to get caught up in smallness, in fact it’s everywhere- family gathering, grocery store, work, ect. So I wonder at times, is this a test of my Faith, is God testing me with smallness, to see if I can avoid it at all cost…? Hhhmmm…

 

It’s important to know that some people can’t see and hear beyond what’s in front of them, they are shallow… and you can’t change that.

I watched an episode of Dr. Phil the other day with women “proud to be mistresses”---- and all I could think was “how shallow can you be”?.?.? To be unable to see anything but what is in front of you must be a miserable way to live. I began to feel really sorry for them rather than mad because what a sad way to exist, to be enclosed in a box unable to see or hear anything past your selfish mind frame and your cold heart. Unable to feel real feelings. Some people are stuck, they aren’t happy- period. They haven’t figured out why, if they have they are too proud to change it or they simply can’t change it. Seeing others sad or mad may even make them feel better about their position….. SMALL THINKING.  

The saddest part, if people can’t hear and see things of this nature, like feelings, emotion, love, empathy, hurt, pain---- they probably can’t see and hear Christ either, pray for them. It’s important to go past what you see and hear, put yourself in the place of another, love yourself enough to love others, so that you can get out of that box. God didn’t create you for a box, He created you for the world.

 

Sometimes, people are too big for me--- I have to let them go. I can’t handle them and the hardest thing to admit is when you can’t handle something, so you hold on it to because you are determined not to fail, one more chance, then BAM--- you’re hurt. Seriously, let it go. Anyone who loves you will do just that, LOVE YOU. It’s not losing to let go, it’s a decision that you make in order to keep your sanity and freedom (don’t go to jail). J Really, how precious is your sanity, what’s it worth to you. Again, it’s seeing someone for who they truly are, not who they say they are. It’s okay to let go, God gives us the power to do that when the time is right… some friends aren’t meant to be forever, period. They served their purpose in your life….Accept that and move on. This isn’t EASY---- but it’s NECESSARY.

Get away from small thinking, small living, and small understanding. Small natured people never fulfill their purpose, they never step out of the bubble--- meaning they can see things going on around them and they are miserable because they don’t UNDERSTAND it. Their hearts are cold and their emotions are numb, they are bitter and hateful, because they are stuck in smallness. Smallness is like being stuck in this trap that only allows negativity and selfishness, it’s failure in the highest degree—you fail yourself and people you love.

I’m no saint, I’ve lived small before, I’ve been confined to my own opinion--- but it doesn’t work for me. I realized I can’t lead, I can’t learn, I can’t succeed from inside a box. I have to see people, understand them, empathize with them, and above all forgive them. I literally have to place myself in the shoes of others at times, as much as it kills my pride!  Over time I’ve looked at people in my life and realized-- they are like the Dad on Honey I Shrunk the Kids… small. If I am around smallness, I am small too… it’s not a matter of being better than someone else- because I’m not----------- it’s a matter of evaluating where I am in life, where I want to be, and doing what’s necessary to get there. I don’t want to be small, I want to be as big as Christ needs me to be. Listen to your heart cry, if it’s dying to get out of a box, get away from smallness--- set it free.

 

I pray today that God takes us out of the box, the smallness, and bring us to big things…

 

Have a blessed day!  Rachelle